Whom to blame??...A nice story i read

A Boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open.

He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its colour and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

QUESTIONS:

1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?


ANSWER :

The husband just said, "I am with you Darling."

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiven, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.

Being Expressive or remain silent??

Hi Friends,

I hope you have admired my previous post and the purpose of being here, please do send your feedbacks..waiting anxiously!!

So here i am again with a subject that often creates a dilemma in my mind and i would like to share my thoughts with you all. Expression i.e. to express yourself, rather your inner-self, maybe in the form of speech or action, with truthfulness is something that actually glorifies your life. It makes you a "straightforward" person, modest and more honest. you actually get that courage to put forward your thoughts. you get rid of all your guilts, and never even think about "Why didn't i speak up that time?". If you really feel your point has weight, never keep it inside you. Thats the power of expression!!. But on the contrary, it might turn out rude sometimes. People might start portraying you as a very impolite, adamant sort of a person.

So, what i think, sometimes silence plays a more important role than just delivering whatever comes in mind. "Blabber-mouth" ya thats the word! there's a very vast distinction in being expressive and being blabber mouthed. And what separates the two is the Power of silence. Silence gives you the strength of achieving your will. It can put a stop to an argument from getting hotter. Now I think it really helps because In my life there have been many situations when i thought "Why did i say so? can't i keep my mouth shut" or "If i had not said so, things would have been different". So thats the time i realized my mistakes and felt guilty for it. Just holding back my tongue or my actions would have turned the things round.

But the dilemma is about, if i would have kept quite would have that portrayed my honesty?

But later on i realized it has nothing to do with the honesty, it is all about not hurting the emotions of the other person, and for me emotions of others are really a main concern.

Its like something i read a few days back 90/10 principle...it says 10% of a situation is not under our control while 90% of it can be controlled by our behavior. Its upto us to decide whether we need to keep Silent or Express ourselves. Thats the way i think now, suffered a lot because of this. Being silent or being expressive at a wrong instant of time can give a pain that is unbearable.. But how to really judge when to or not to speak up. Both Silence and expression have their equal role as well as timing.

All i know is someone said it true when they said something like "Its never too late nor too early to realize your mistakes and your responsibilities, it is always the right time!!!"...

Wish to seek your suggestions as well as responses..till then buh-bye!!

My First Post...:)

Hi Friends!!

Really excited about my first post...just thinking

"How to start!... from where to start!..."

Ok...so lemme just brief why i am writing this blog...

It took me 20 years i.e. the time i came into this world, to realize that its kinda strange world, Every individual every mind is a mystery in itself. Whenever i meet someone for the first time, i try to figure out his/her actual self. I generally try to look at the positive side of people and try to acquire qualities for the betterment of life, that i think would help me to understand people better. Basically i want to understand the real meaning of "life".

Through my space i would share my life instances and thoughts on various aspects of life. I would love to get a feedback and suggestions about my thoughts..so that i can really judge myself, whether m on the right track or not. I really don't want to go on the negative track, really don't have that kinda mindset. But i love to change myself for good. you know " Change is the only process for growth, that's the law of nature" Timely and correct changes bring about fruitful changes in life, and the process has to be continuous, for the lifetime. that's my way of thinking would love to get feedback from you....till then buh-bye!!